“I like riding motorcycles and shooting guns, so I was apprehensive about meeting with some people to talk about feelings and emotional expectations. My guard was quickly lowered as I realized that the Rizzo’s were full of practical wisdom and didn’t overwhelm me with poems and perfume. They had a very realistic approach to romance and sexuality that didn’t take anything away from the excitement of being in love, but also helped us maintain ‘real life’ expectations. It has been almost exactly a year since my wife and I sat with Mike and Anne, and we can clearly look back on specific times that we have purposefully put their teachings into practice. I truly believe that our sessions have helped to enrich our marriage!”
-Jim & Natalie
“It is foolish to get married without first doing premarital counseling. It would also be foolish to not get the manual currently in your hand. Mike and Anne have a great wealth of wisdom and knowledge when it comes to relationships, and they helped my wife and I realize the deep significance of the commitment we were making to each other when we got married. We absolutely love them, and you will too.”
-Eric & Erin
“Through this book, Mike and Anne are joining your team in your fight for love. My husband and I have found the Rizzos’ experience and knowledge completely priceless, and I can’t recommend them highly enough!”
-Lauren & Mitch
“My husband and I really enjoyed our time with the Rizzo’s. They were very insightful and could relate to any issues my fiance and I brought up during our sessions. I never felt judged and they always made us feel understood. Premarital counseling helped us look at and process our relationship, as well as our own personal values, before issues came up in our marriage.”
-Matt & Leah
“We’ve been married for over two years. Premarital counseling with Mike and Anne helped us to avoid any surprises after the wedding. We had a safe environment to discuss our expectations and work out differences. This was the best investment we could make for starting our marriage on the right footing.”
-Eric & Taneisha
“Mike and Anne are seasoned counselors and friends of the Lord. Premarital counseling was a joy with them, even as we walked through some tough places of the heart. They painted a much-needed, biblical perspective on marriage in light of eternity and our callings to love God first.”
-Carl & Ailene
“My wife and I were so glad we did premarital counseling with the Rizzo’s. Our time with them pinpointed areas of weakness and gave us some tools to grow: like resolving conflict and defining the roles in our relationship. Because of these conversations, we went into marriage empowered to move forward as a team.”
-Brian & Joannie
“Mike and Anne Rizzo were a well of deep wisdom to drink from as we made huge decisions that greatly impacted our future. They were able to read deeply into our hearts and tell us things that we were thinking and feeling but couldn’t really articulate. Their advice has stuck with us, making our marriage stable and strong, and is still shaping the way we live day by day three years later.”
-Nate & Kate
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on July 23, 2017
I read this book while dating my now fiancé. As I read it the first time, it began to deepen my understanding of God’s beautiful and holy perspective on marriage. Mike and Anne honestly address the mountains and valleys of living out a marriage that is pursing an eternal perspective. The questions they ask created a strong platform that made my heart find confidence that I can live out a spirit filled, strong marriage in our society today. After becoming engaged, my fiancé and I completed Vertical Marriage together. Mike and Anne’s heart for marriage, people, and the Lord is not only apparent in their writing, but also in the interactions we were blessed to have with them. This book is foundational and encouraging, not only as you prepare for marriage, but as you pursue the Lord in the seasons of singleness, dating, engagement or marriage.
on May 6, 2017
This book should be on your top reading priority!!!! I have read it and underlined and made notes, it’s become so personal to me! I am married and I feel so hopeful for my marriage, of what it really could become!! Mike and Anne helped me see the value of placing the Lord first and the fruits that follow in a marriage by doing so. Thank you for this little light for my life!!
on April 9, 2017
Vertical Marriage, though seemingly written with a premarital focus, acts as a compass for marriages of any length. The authors skillfully pen timeless wisdom and truth that could have saved my wife and I months of heart ache. My only regret is that I didn’t read this sooner.
on February 15, 2017
My boyfriend read this book and then passed it on to me as a must-read. It is a good book, and though an easy read, it is thought-provoking and biblically sound. I appreciated both “voices” of the authors, the Scripture, as well as their own experiences covered in the pages. My favorite part of the book is the appendix questions for both partners. They are excellent questions that sparked important conversations between my boyfriend and me. My boyfriend’s favorite part of the book was the initial “Purity Pledge” covered in the first chapter or so, which we find crucial to the health of our relationship.
on January 23, 2017
Vertical Marriage is an extremely well rounded book. So practical and straight forward and yet very thought provoking and challenging. I really appreciate how they used their own life stories to share these truths. It is a simple and easy read and the authors do a really good job in helping the reader implement the insight they are sharing. It is so rich and full of life. I did a lot of pausing, thinking and praying because of the many gold nuggets in this book. My wife and I love this book. We read it shortly after getting engaged and can not wait to revisit it again. It is so rich in biblical truths and offers much marital wisdom. Vertical marriage has a perfect blend of the spiritual and practical. The authors teach us that having a dynamic relationship with God first and foremost will lead to the most vibrant and fruitful marriage. The more we love and are loved by God the more love we will have for our spouse. They also expound upon truths such as covenant, the 1st commandment, having an eternal mindset and how they impact and shape our marriage. This same book also helped get us talking about many practical things such as time management, finances, sex, entertainment, and household chores. One of the big things that it helped us start processing was new family dynamics like where we would spend the holidays (we have a big family) and how we would stay connected to everyone. I highly recommend this book to all married or engaged couples, it will be time well spent.
Me and my fiance were fortunate enough to be part of the International House of Prayer community and we did our premaritial counseling with Mike and Anne. They really are great people with a heart to see couples reconciled and united with Christ. The truth is that if we cannot first reconcile our hearts with Jesus, we will continually struggle in our relationships. Our stepping forth to pursue marriage exposes our greatest flaws, weaknesses, and failures but God is able to mold, shape, and heal us through the process of submitting to his leadership concerning marriage. Human beings are naturally self centered and unforgiving and only Christ’s love can shape us into being a better spouse. Vertical marriage is all about looking to God and putting God first in our relationships, and through doing this God is able to work in our lives the peace and unity that he desires to see in a marriage relationship. This book will help you learn what love is through God’s eyes and his expectations through the ups and downs of marriage. Mostly, it will help you learn more about your partner and understand his/her needs better and work through the differences that arise as a result of discussing the questions written throughout the book. It highlights some very important topics that seriously need considering before committing to a marriage relationship. I think the questions in this book itself is worth the cost of the book. It has helped me and my fiance discover more about each other, our differences, and what our expectations are going into marriage. The chapters of the book has helped us to establish Godly order and structure in our relationship and has definitely highlighted areas that we need work on. The bible is clear about certain key areas that sustain a healthy marriage such as submission, love, and respect and this is also well highlighted in the book. I highly recommend this book to anyone seeking to build a Godly foundation and greater spiritual depth in their marriage.
This book helped redefine my perception of marriage and relationships. I read this book with my fiancè, and it has significantly impacted the way we now relate to each other (in a good way)! I learned key insights into how men and women communicate differently, why it’s critical that we posture our hearts in humility and keep our focus on the Lord, and so much more! I definitely recommend this book to anybody who wants to grow in how they relate to others—whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married!
Loved this book! My fiancée and I read this book together and also had the privilege of doing our premarital counseling with Mike and Anne Rizzo in person. We love that it offers an intersection of both the practical and the spiritual, rather than one or the other—for believers this heavenly wisdom grounded in earthly reality is absolutely essential. The book also contains some really great questions for couples’ discussion and offers wonderful resources in the appendix. Add this one to your library!
on September 18, 2016
We have served on the pre-marital counseling team at our church for over ten years. Vertical Marriage is by far the most spiritually in-depth resource we’ve seen. The Rizzo’s pull no punches when it comes to emphasizing moral purity and faithfulness to walking out a dating relationship and marriage covenant with integrity before God. Everything a Christian couple needs related to spiritual and relational wholeness is within the pages of this book!
I want to recommend this book to couples considering marriage, to those couples new to marriage but also to couples like us who have been happily married for 19 years. This book is divided so clearly into 4 sections with insights, principles, and questions for discussion. There are also great resources and an Appendix with thoughtful discussions of some of the more sensitive concerns many have. While there are many books available on marriage, I found this one uniquely designed to encourage us to pursue “holiness above happiness” and gives many practical ways to do this.
Great book! Everyone should read and practice these tips for a great marriage with God at the center!
Vertical Marriage is a refreshing and encouraging book for engaged couples or those thinking about marriage. It was insightful and gave me a healthy perspective on marriage and its purpose. When my husband and I were engaged, I referenced this book whenever I had a question and it gave me assurance as I was about to make the step into marriage. I highly recommend this book as a great premarital resource!
This book had great perspective and insight into the covenant of marriage. My wife and I are fortunate to live in the same city as Mike and Anne, because it permitted us to walk through the book with them. It was wonderful to not just have the authors perspective, but also to see them actually walk out the principles in their own book. They practice what they preach. It was also very meaningful because the book helped us understand each other and to feel more known by each other. I believe this book really conveys the Lord’s heart for marriage. Add this book to your collection!